Is My Worth Far Above Rubies? Part III

This post is a continuation from Part II HERE 

So, is my worth far above rubies?  What must I do to be worthy?  Am I expected to be perfect?  No.  We can best get our definition of what God calls us to be from the Proverbs 31 woman (Proverbs 31:10-31).  “Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.” Prov 31:10-12

We are called to be trustworthy to our husbands.  We should not hold secrets or be deceptive or manipulative.  Our husbands should be able to trust us.  They should be able to trust that we have their best interests at heart in all that we do and say (or don't say, i.e. gossip).  We should do our husbands good, not evil. Be careful about how we talk about our husbands.  We should not be pouring out our troubles or differences for others to have a bad view of our spouses.  Praise should always be on our lips.

Women, I exhort you to find something to praise your husband for every day.  I know I have not done this and God is calling me to a higher level TODAY.  Do we argue?  Yes, we have many ‘disagreements’, but we always know that Jesus is our rock.  He is our strong tower.  If we have humble hearts that are willing to be molded by the potter’s hand, we will become willing vessels that He can pour Himself into that we can then share His love and wisdom with our mates.

Our direction comes from the Lord.  We must be willing to repent when we step over the boundaries that He has set so that we can remain victorious in Him and advance His kingdom.  Our son is a testimony of what faith in God can do.  We tried unsuccessfully for almost 8 years to conceive and after dedicated, anointed prayer and God’s timing, he was our blessing.  Why have there not been any more pregnancies?  Only God knows.  Perhaps for such a time as this.  We are getting ready to step into another chapter in our life.  We are now licensed to be foster parents and are eagerly waiting to see what God will do in this new season.  Keep your faith in God and what He can do in you and through your marriage and you will stay on the right track.  Is my worth far above rubies?  God thinks so!

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Is My Worth Far Above Rubies? Part II

This post is a continuation from Part I HERE.

When Jearl and I got married, it was a union that would be forever.  God knew it and so did we.  We were committed to the end.  It was easy the first 3 to 5 years.  We NEVER argued, if you can believe that (we really didn’t).  Then I would have to say that the spirit of familiarity must have set in and the road started to get bumpy.  Over the years, it got pretty rough and we had times when we wondered if we could pull through.  The fact is, WE couldn’t.  We must always remember that marriage is a threesome, not a twosome.  Man, wife, and Holy Spirit.  Without God’s merciful grace, we don’t stand a chance in today’s world.  We must always do our part, and then God will do His part.  Men are asked to love their wives as Christ loved the church.  Women, we are asked to submit to and honor our husbands.  Submit?!  What do you mean submit?!  Yes, God means what He says, but let’s not get caught up in the world’s definition of submit.  Submitting has nothing to do with allowing someone to abuse you or being under or less than someone else.  Submission by God's standards is more of a reverence.  An honoring of those we love and serve ( Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Eph 5:22 NIV).

until next time. . . may your day be blessed!

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Is My Worth Far Above Rubies? Part I

Once, when asked to give my testimony on our marriage I thought, “How could I?”  After all, we certainly haven’t had the perfect marriage, nor has it been perfected to this day.  But, then I was reminded (by the Holy Spirit) that God calls us to complete and immediate obedience.  I was asked to provide something that I did indeed have, and must praise God for!

My husband and I have been married 17 years.  We have four children.  The three older children are my husband's from previous relationships (including two marriages).  I also have been divorced.  God hates divorce and I have first hand experience as to why he does.  However, we serve a mighty God who is in the business of restoring lives.

After a nightmare marriage (to my first husband) of mental torment and infidelity, I found myself wanting to be alone and had no desire to marry again.  I was not saved at the time and did not understand God’s desire for oneness and that He has a plan for each of our lives.  My marriage to my now (and forever) husband was not God’s perfect plan.  God does not desire that anyone be divorced.  However, because He is an all knowing and all loving God, He knew about the restoration that would occur in our lives.  Come back later for more of this story! 

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